Episode 110 – Arielle Estoria On the Deconstruction of the Good Girl
TL;DR | In this episode, Stacy chats with her favorite girl Arielle Estoria about the deconstruction of the "GOOD GIRL SYNDROME," the grief of growth, and reimagining self-trust.
WHEWWW — and there is so much MORE where that came from. This episode was a breaking and healing at the same time
My guest this episode is an incredible poet, storyteller, model, author, beautiful human and wonderful friend. You know how you meet someone and you don’t really know if they are on the same wavelength as you but then one spark flies and its a done deal?! Thats how Arielle and I connected more than one year ago. Arielle and I share similar upbringings as the oldest in our families with a conservative Christian background. Although we honor our stories and experiences, I thought it was incredibly important to break down the example child title + the good girl syndrome and it’s dangerous support of people-pleasing, a lack of boundaries and a broken relationship with self-trust — THE DECONSTRUCTION OF THE GOOD GIRL if you will.
Who decides who and what a good girl is? Is it religion? Is it society? Is it marketing/advertising? WE GET INTO IT.
There is so much more I want to say but truly we left it all in the episode. Take a listen, grab a tissue, and if you can relate in anyway, I invite you to heal with us.
SONG OF THE EPISODE | “NO ONES IN THE ROOM ” by Jessie Reyez
BOOK OF THE EPISODE | Conversations with God by Donald Walsch
Watch the Video Interview
“The foundation of the good girl mindset is essentially just a conditioning of smallness.”
EPISODE 110 REFLECTION QUESTION
QUESTION | Am I living true to myself?
STACY’S REPLY
Honestly. I don't think so. Am I consciously letting go of things that don't serve me and are not true to who I really am, absolutely. One day at a time
Major: What are my limiting beliefs?
Currently, I find myself stuck in this lie that I don't know enough. I feel behind on the things I want to educate myself on more and sometimes this stops me from learning at all. When I catch myself here, again -- I repeat remind myself that there is nothing to be afraid of.
